Today is the sixth anniversary of my Mom’s passing. And yesterday, we celebrated the marriage of Peter’s son, Blake, and his wonderful new wife, Kim. The wedding, held at Fenway Park in Boston, was the most unique I have ever attended.

Life is an interesting thing. We have no choice but to accept change in its many facets. From saying goodbye to a cherished loved one, to embracing a new family member, to finding new facial lines in the mirror, life for us humans progresses whether we like it or not. The interweaving of present moment experiences and memories, including the making of new memories, is a rich tapestry, one highlighted by glorious days interwoven with intense loss. And it’s okay.

As Peter and I danced to the Rock & Roll and Hip Hop music of the great Boston band, Sweet Tooth and the Sugar Babies, I found myself weaving another connection – a memory from my early childhood…my dear friend and “Uncle” Alton nicknamed me Sugar Baby. I adored that name and even as a three-year-old, I recognized the love and affection Alton bestowed on me when he called me that. I think today of that cherished little girl and all she’s seen and experienced. I wouldn’t change a thing – any of it.



18 comments on “Tapestry

  1. boomiebol says:

    May your mom continue to rest in peace. Sending love


  2. Brigitte says:

    Sugar Baby, what a lovely post — thank you for sharing those sweet and bittersweet memories. xxoo


  3. russtowne says:

    Your last paragraph brought a smile to my face and it lingers still. Thank you, Cathy.


  4. You have such great perspective, Cathy. I love the thought of looking back on your child self and all she’s seen and experienced.
    Congratulations to the newlyweds, wishing them many years of happiness. And good thoughts to you as you toast your mom tonight.


    • Cathy Ulrich says:

      Thank you, RG. I hadn’t thought of Sugar Baby for many years. It made so many connections for me. Kim and Blake are a wonderful couple and I’m so happy for them! And my Mom was the best. These days I think of her without the pain of her loss. It’s good to be here.


  5. mimijk says:

    The bittersweet interplay between celebrating love and honoring its impact touches me deeply Cathy..Thank you for sharing this with your readers..


  6. Sugar Baby is such a sweet name for a little girl. Sending love to your mom upstairs, Cathy. And congratulations to Blake & Kim!


  7. RFL says:

    Sugar Baby is such a great nickname. This post was beautiful and I really enjoy your perspective on things. To accepting change and seeing the value in all the threads of our life tapestries.


    • Cathy Ulrich says:

      It’s a bit easier when we can accept change rather than resist it, I think. Thank you, Rachelle for your kind comment. I love your perspective as well. You write wonderful and insightful posts that are such a pleasure to ingest.




  8. You have such a positive and healthy outlook on life Cathy, this sweet and poignant post puts my industrial strength cynicism on hold.


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